Or Big Wedding?
There’s an encompassing definition of what marriage is: a formal union and a social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally.
The main point of this is that it’s between two individuals. It’s the most important part about choosing to get married. It’s not about the dress, the cake and inviting aunt Gwen’s cousin Jean. It’s about the two of you and the love you share for each other.
Planning a wedding can be stressful, I know, I’ve been there and left it all to Matt! But if I could replan our wedding and do it all again, I’d elope. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely loved sharing my day with friends and family but being worried whether everyone enjoyed their food (we had a bbq and it was aca-amazing) whether people would get up and dance under the starlit sky we’d had installed in the marquee for extra ££’s and that I’d upset so many people that I couldn’t invite due to space, especially as I’d chosen friends that I no longer speak to or hear from over them. Even now I still feel guilty about that part!
So if I could tell the 2012 jodie, just how I’d look back on my wedding day (I also hated my makeup so I don’t like how I look in my wedding photos!) I wouldn’t bother searching for the perfect venue for the reception, or the perfect shoes to match my beautiful dress. Instead, whilst I’d still choose the dress I wanted, but I’d be choosing wellies and running off to scotland, just Matt and I with our dog Simba (he was our only dog at the time!) and eloping in the mountains that meant so much to us. We could do it our way and make it about us, which let’s face it, what marriage is all about. In all fairness, I would have had my closest family members there too but that’s it. We’d have saved thousands of pounds and our start to married life would have been less stressful and we could have focussed more on us, and not Bryn from work.
I’m not trying to put anyone off a big wedding.
It’s your marriage and therefore, your choice. And there really are pros and cons for both types of weddings but I wanted to share an insight into how I’d do mine differently if I could have my time to do it all again.
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